You Can Love Your Kids Deeply and Still Struggle with Motherhood

I love my kids more than words could ever express.

I would go to the ends of the earth for them. I pray over them, fight for them, and want nothing more than for them to grow up knowing they’re deeply loved, by me and by God.

But I still struggle with motherhood.

And if you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you do too.

The Guilt We Don’t Talk About

There’s this unspoken pressure we carry as moms, the idea that if we’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or even resentful at times, then we must not be grateful enough. That if we’re having a hard time, we’re somehow failing.

But here’s the truth I wish someone had told me sooner:

Struggling doesn’t mean you don’t love your children. It means you’re human.

We weren’t created to carry it all without rest, without support, or without space to breathe. And just because we chose this life doesn’t mean it’s not hard. That’s not a lack of love, it’s a reality of the weight we carry.

A Reminder for the Mom Who Feels Broken

There have been seasons where I’ve hidden in the bathroom just to cry. Times when the noise, the mess, the needs, and the pressure felt like too much. Times when I questioned if I was cut out for this at all.

And in those moments, shame would creep in:

“You have beautiful, healthy children, what’s wrong with you?”

“You wanted this. You should be soaking it up.”

"Other moms do it without complaining, why can’t you?”

But mama, God never called us to perfection.

He calls us to dependence.

On Him.

Not our own strength.

And it’s in that weakness, in the mess, in the breaking down, that He meets us with His mercy.

You’re Not Alone

Motherhood is beautiful and holy, yes. But it’s also a battlefield. It sanctifies us, stretches us, and reveals the parts of ourselves we’d rather keep hidden.

So if you’re walking through a hard season right now, I want you to know:

• You can love your children fiercely and still long for quiet.

• You can be deeply grateful and still feel overwhelmed.

• You can be both soft and strong, exhausted and devoted, broken and beautifully called.

  
  

You are not a bad mom for struggling.

You’re a human mom, doing your best. And you’re seen.

By God.

By me.

By this community.

If today’s one of the hard days, let me gently remind you:

God’s grace is big enough for all of it.

The undone laundry, the snapped words, the tears in the dark, the moments you wish you could redo. He sees it, and He stays. He loves you in it, not in spite of it.

And maybe… just maybe… it’s in those exact places that He’s doing His most sacred work in you.

💛

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